Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Married Forever?

Hello fwends.. dunno if anyone ever going to read these interesting facts.. article? huhu~ i have to be interested in marriage.. as every single bleedin' person is asking me when i'm gonna get married.. Is it that important to them? maybe it is.. owhh.. and the teachers at school have decided that i'm already engaged and will be getting married soon.. suits me fine, since they're not gonna bother me during school holidays thinking i'll be "planning my wedding" haha.. i dont even have anyone yet.. ( announcement of the year!) but.. shhh! dont tell teachers at my school.. I am sooo planning my "wedding" in sabah.. and johor.. and UK(rite matno??) but my first destination is SABAH! please2 dear God gimme more money for me to have fun! amin..

anyway.. back to marriage.. read this peeps.. i think it kind of is true..

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here...
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU .

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU .

Falling in love is easy
. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades.It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship . Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages breakdown
. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make"love .

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling..

Remember this always :

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here...
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...

Thank you & best regards,

Wednesday, March 4, 2009


Anyone ever eaten here knows how good it is.. I have not been there for ages until recently i went to the one in KLCC... Brings back memories too.. use to go to the one in Penang.. I wish i could have those days back again.. haih.. anyway.. try chilli's people.. the food there is really good... and dont forget to bring me along! As u can see there are pics here.. but none of the food.. just the clean ( not so) plates.. hehe.. x sempat amik food dh kne sapu bersih.. these are the remains of mushroom jack fajitas.. triple play and country fried chicken...

Sunday, March 1, 2009


oLa~ everyone..

i have noo idea why i am starting this..( again.. i have one in friendster.. dunno what's happened to that one..) maybe because it seems quite interesting and i feel like sharing... but for now.. i just want to say i miss all of my friends.. TEYLIANZ especially... i am still adapting in this newe phase where my closes friends are a thousand miles away.. and the nearer one seems even further... owh.. and i want to ask.. is everyone as busy as i am at school.. tons of work.. tons of things to do.. and no time to do it? and the others are not making it easier? do share.. i'd love to know...